Foreword by Vanessa:
This post is meant to build a bridge amongst women on social media. There are so many useless instances where extreme negativity masquerades as opinions and opposing views. Even more frequent, are the number of overtly aggressive interactions on social media that take place toward or between women. Part of She-Spark’s mission is to change the climate of how women relate and are treated on digital platforms, but it starts with us.
Join the conversation and tell us about your experiences, how you love yourself and others on social media.
Social media should be fun access to news, indulgent celebrity gossip and endless information. Most days, it’s a minefield that you must navigate with skill. There are thousands of internet trolls who make it their life’s purpose to ruin your day, naysayers, haters and everything in between.
Women especially are victims of digital abuse and harassment. Which is not only a disappointment; it is a modern reflection of the state of equality of the sexes. Sadly, women find it hard to feel freedom in expressing themselves, their sexuality, political views and more because of the hostile environment that social media can be.
Luckily, there are ways to fight the social media gremlins, keep feeling fabulous and motivate your fellow fearless females.
Keep your friends close and your enemies… blocked!
Having the most followers has evolved to a measure of success in the digital age. We all have been guilty of associating our value with that magical number next to our avatars. With thousands of individuals that are essentially total strangers, expect a good chunk to be those who spew negativity into your timeline. Do not feel bad about hitting that blocked button. Just like all relationships in life- you are responsible for who surrounds you.
Even though we may never meet these negative energy suckers face-to-face, digital pessimism can impact your confidence and mood. Create your networks on purpose. Know a fellow blogger who inspires you? Maybe a young professional who gives great advice? The first rule of loving yourself on social media is how you feel about those who fill your timeline.
Get rid of the FOMO
Accept it, 99% of us do not live like reality TV socialites with pro-athlete boyfriends. Seeing exotic destinations and uber-expensive purchases can make you question your own worthiness. The same happens with people you know. When you see everyone having fun without you, remember everything is not always as it seems. But let’s be real, it can plague your thoughts and leave you feeling totally left out.
Having a great time IRL is more important than having fun for likes. Social media has a tendency to dictate what we should all be doing. Staging fun for social media is an epidemic and suffocates women in more ways than one. Keep your integrity and keep up with your genuine interests and activities. Let the amazing photos, posts and blogs be true to who you are. Lose that fear of missing out, set your own trends and stick to your own standards.
Take a break
Checking social media accounts 24/7 is not healthy for any woman. You should not forget to live and have experiences outside of social media. When you feel yourself overwhelmed with comments and unrealistic portrayals of fabulosity, pause and celebrate you! Remind yourself that social media is a powerful tool but is also a supplement to your life, not your entire life.
Social media is awesome. It’s a great way to connect, meet new people and get a good laugh. The dark side of social media creeps up when you least expect it. Remember to show yourself love and keep social media in its place!