We all know what friends are for; support, endless laughs and everything in between. There are times we get caught up in toxic friendships and don’t even realize it. Do you ever catch yourself wondering “Why am I friends with her?” You are not alone honey! Female friendships should be uplifting and positive. Of course no friendship is all rainbows and butterflies but there are signs that your BFF is really your frenemy.
Flakier than a Biscuit
Keeping plans is part of a friendship. While life happens and every lunch date may not be in stone, a good friend keeps her word. On the flip side, a toxic friend will leave you waiting around and wondering if they will show up. This is also a sign they don’t respect your time. Ditch that flaky friend and focus on the ones you know you can depend on, even if it is just for afternoon sushi.
She’s Gotta Have Him
More than likely your friends are the first to know you have a crush on your new coworker or that guy who is always at your local farmer’s market. A toxic friend moves in on your crush and calls it NBD. Really?! A positive friend would never take your shine and let you have your moment with your crush. Don’t settle for friendships that hurt your feelings and your ego.
Out of Service
New relationships are exciting and it is only natural to want to spend extra time with that special person. Real friends know that even when they are in relationships, they shouldn’t neglect their girlfriends. Unfortunately, a toxic friend may total disappear on you when she has a boyfriend and magically reappear whenever she’s single. If she can’t maintain a friendship while she has a romantic relationship, she is not the friend for you.
All About Me
Alright, we all have had this toxic friend experience. Whenever you two get together, text or have any interactions- you can’t get a word in about yourself. Supporting friends is important but it goes both ways. You have to show you genuinely are interested in someone else to have a fair friendship.
Toxic friends can go unnoticed. But take some time to evaluate if your friendship is like this 🙂 or like this 🙁 . More importantly, take a look at yourself and see if you are guilty of being a toxic friend. No friendships are perfect but they should always be based on love and mutual respect.